Buddhism isn’t about being calm and peaceful all the time. It’s about being open to reality, not rejecting the … Continue reading The road to compassion
Feeling bad is a clear message that feeling good doesn’t last, but in the medical rush to make it better, we’d rather not think about that. Continue reading Impermanence and Complaint
When people ask what has helped me “stay positive” on my cancer journey, I should just quote Pema Chödrön. Continue reading Things Fall Apart
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Life changed dramatically for me and my family when I was diagnosed last year with plasma cell leukemia. The perspective … Continue reading Life Changes
I wrote an email to a friend this morning:
I am getting familiar with that in-between, waiting, confused, gap experience. I’m waiting on biopsy results myself–results are due Tuesday. My health over the last year has been one thing after another, since I was diagnosed with rheumatoid arthritis a year ago.
There’s a word for this waiting place from Tibetan Buddhism–bardo. A bardo is a state where we’re leaving something familiar, and the next stage hasn’t fully revealed itself. It’s the most uncomfortable, potentially terrifying place to be. It requires the utmost kindness, gentleness, a light touch of awareness, and an approach of grounding, one-step-at-a-time, and appreciation for the present moment. Continue reading “The Bardo of Waiting”